Studies say that 80% of the people who work do not have their dream job.
Happiness Comes from Challenges
The word challenge has a negative meaning in our world.
Many times, challenges are considered to be the same as problems.
We think - "I want my life to be without any challenges or problems."
Problems are not the same as challenges.
The secret to happiness lies in challenges. In solving the challenges.
If you have solved all the challenges in your life, your life will be boring.
To explain it better, let me take you back in time...
There was a time when you were a kid.
As a kid, you did not know how to ride a bi-cycle, a motorcycle, a car and you did not know how to take a train or a flight.
You had many challenges as a kid.
Then you grew up and you overcame all these challenges.
How did it feel when you first balanced yourself on a bi-cycle?
How did it feel when you first took the car or bike our on your own?
How did it feel when your first went on a trip, on a flight or train, by yourself?
HAPPINESS. ACHIEVEMENT. SATISFACTION.
Happiness comes from solving a challenge, which you thought you couldn't.
Before you started learning how to drive a car, in the initial days, you might have thought you might never be a good driver.
Then you found out that it is easy now, while still many people struggle to drive a car.
There is happiness at the moment of achievement.
And then there is satisfaction of being skilled at something - which lasts longer than happiness.
Happiness at Work
Happiness at work comes from solving a challenge that you thought you might not be able to do.
That's why - Happiness is in the journey, not the destination.
There are many milestones in the journey, and each milestone gives some happiness.
You Can't Buy Happiness with Money
Many people think that money is the path to happiness.
To some extent, money can buy you happiness.
You can buy good things with it, including watches, bikes, cars, computers, vacations and so on.
But the hard truth is that all of them become boring very soon. Its fun for a short time, and there is nothing wrong in having such fun. But it is important to realize that money cannot buy you long term happiness and satisfaction.
Imagine how excited you were when you got the toy you wanted as a kid. How long did the happiness last? A few days?
Eventually, everything will become boring.
Solutions to all boredom, eventually end up in boredom.
TV series is good for killing boredom, but if you watch TV series all the time, all the series will be boring eventually.
New computer games, new vacations, new clothes - everything makes us feel good, but then it becomes the new norm. It becomes boring. And it stops giving us happiness.
Many people are still thinking that they should chase money and then they can get all the happiness they want.
So people work harder, and try to make more money.
They find out that even after buying the things they want, they are not happy enough - and they still don't learn.
They think they need more money to buy more happiness and work even harder - at the cost of their health.
And finally when they have enough money, they don't have the health to enjoy it. Game over.
But challenges can also become boring if we do not take up bigger challenges.
The first time I learned how to drive a car, it was exciting. Now I feel public transport is better than own car. Sit and feel free.
That's why you have to level up your challenges continuously as you grow in life.
Level Up Your Challenges
When you start playing a new video game, it is difficult at first.
When you win / complete the first level, you feel happy.
A sense of achievement.
You thought you couldn't and now you could. Amazing feeling that is.
However, you can't keep playing the same Level 1 all the time. Right?
Happiness comes from progressively achieving things which you thought you couldn't.
When you get to Level 4 in a game, it might seem very difficult. It's a challenge. And then you practice and grow. Then you complete it. Happiness.
Similarly in life and in work, you need to go for higher levels of challenges.
Challenges are uncomfortable at first, but you will get used to it. You need it.
There is no other way to achieve happiness without taking up bigger challenges.
If you are not happy at work, it is mostly because the work is not challenging you.
If your work pays well, but if it is boring, you should quit immediately and look for a harder challenge.
The harder the challenge is, the more happiness and satisfaction you will have when you solve that challenge.
So go ahead and learn something new, and take up a new challenge.
Don't Take up Very Difficult Challenges
When I say take up challenges, do not make the mistake of taking up an impossible task for yourself.
If I ask you to drive a car, you might be able to.
But if I ask you to build a car, you are not Elon Musk and you cannot design and build a Tesla.
If you force yourself to take up a challenge that is way above your competence, you will find frustration and anxiety - not happiness.
It's like trying to play Level 10 of the game, directly from Level 2. You will only end up frustrated and angry.
Elon Musk can launch rockets, but he did not jump to that challenge. He grow from one level to another, one step at a time.
You need to level up your challenges at work, that is in line with your level of skill and competence.
So, strike that balance between the challenge and your skill level.
Find work that is just a little bit above your skill level and always try to grow one step beyond.
With each step of growth, you will have immense level of happiness and satisfaction.
Happiness Comes from Challenges
The word challenge has a negative meaning in our world.
Many times, challenges are considered to be the same as problems.
We think - "I want my life to be without any challenges or problems."
Problems are not the same as challenges.
The secret to happiness lies in challenges. In solving the challenges.
If you have solved all the challenges in your life, your life will be boring.
To explain it better, let me take you back in time...
There was a time when you were a kid.
As a kid, you did not know how to ride a bi-cycle, a motorcycle, a car and you did not know how to take a train or a flight.
You had many challenges as a kid.
Then you grew up and you overcame all these challenges.
How did it feel when you first balanced yourself on a bi-cycle?
How did it feel when you first took the car or bike our on your own?
How did it feel when your first went on a trip, on a flight or train, by yourself?
HAPPINESS. ACHIEVEMENT. SATISFACTION.
Happiness comes from solving a challenge, which you thought you couldn't.
Before you started learning how to drive a car, in the initial days, you might have thought you might never be a good driver.
Then you found out that it is easy now, while still many people struggle to drive a car.
There is happiness at the moment of achievement.
And then there is satisfaction of being skilled at something - which lasts longer than happiness.
Happiness at Work
Happiness at work comes from solving a challenge that you thought you might not be able to do.
That's why - Happiness is in the journey, not the destination.
There are many milestones in the journey, and each milestone gives some happiness.
You Can't Buy Happiness with Money
Many people think that money is the path to happiness.
To some extent, money can buy you happiness.
You can buy good things with it, including watches, bikes, cars, computers, vacations and so on.
But the hard truth is that all of them become boring very soon. Its fun for a short time, and there is nothing wrong in having such fun. But it is important to realize that money cannot buy you long term happiness and satisfaction.
Imagine how excited you were when you got the toy you wanted as a kid. How long did the happiness last? A few days?
Eventually, everything will become boring.
Solutions to all boredom, eventually end up in boredom.
TV series is good for killing boredom, but if you watch TV series all the time, all the series will be boring eventually.
New computer games, new vacations, new clothes - everything makes us feel good, but then it becomes the new norm. It becomes boring. And it stops giving us happiness.
Many people are still thinking that they should chase money and then they can get all the happiness they want.
So people work harder, and try to make more money.
They find out that even after buying the things they want, they are not happy enough - and they still don't learn.
They think they need more money to buy more happiness and work even harder - at the cost of their health.
And finally when they have enough money, they don't have the health to enjoy it. Game over.
But challenges can also become boring if we do not take up bigger challenges.
The first time I learned how to drive a car, it was exciting. Now I feel public transport is better than own car. Sit and feel free.
That's why you have to level up your challenges continuously as you grow in life.
Level Up Your Challenges
When you start playing a new video game, it is difficult at first.
When you win / complete the first level, you feel happy.
A sense of achievement.
You thought you couldn't and now you could. Amazing feeling that is.
However, you can't keep playing the same Level 1 all the time. Right?
Happiness comes from progressively achieving things which you thought you couldn't.
When you get to Level 4 in a game, it might seem very difficult. It's a challenge. And then you practice and grow. Then you complete it. Happiness.
Similarly in life and in work, you need to go for higher levels of challenges.
Challenges are uncomfortable at first, but you will get used to it. You need it.
There is no other way to achieve happiness without taking up bigger challenges.
If you are not happy at work, it is mostly because the work is not challenging you.
If your work pays well, but if it is boring, you should quit immediately and look for a harder challenge.
The harder the challenge is, the more happiness and satisfaction you will have when you solve that challenge.
So go ahead and learn something new, and take up a new challenge.
Don't Take up Very Difficult Challenges
When I say take up challenges, do not make the mistake of taking up an impossible task for yourself.
If I ask you to drive a car, you might be able to.
But if I ask you to build a car, you are not Elon Musk and you cannot design and build a Tesla.
If you force yourself to take up a challenge that is way above your competence, you will find frustration and anxiety - not happiness.
It's like trying to play Level 10 of the game, directly from Level 2. You will only end up frustrated and angry.
Elon Musk can launch rockets, but he did not jump to that challenge. He grow from one level to another, one step at a time.
You need to level up your challenges at work, that is in line with your level of skill and competence.
So, strike that balance between the challenge and your skill level.
Find work that is just a little bit above your skill level and always try to grow one step beyond.
With each step of growth, you will have immense level of happiness and satisfaction.
Good message Dharmendra sir
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ReplyDeleteA very motivational message sir🙏🙏
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